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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It sort of seems like your first marriage was mostly a business arrangement.  I don’t think trying to replicate that is the best plan.  In your 40s, you don’t have to marry for crazy passionate love, but marriage is still more than a business arrangement.  You should be looking for genuine compatibility, shared interests, kindness and consideration.  If you find all of that in a man who only makes $160K, would you really not consider it? [/quote]

I would start a relationship with a man who’s making 160k but it’s not a sign of a very driven person for DC at age 40. And likely he’s not same life style as me.  I would give him ideas how to improve his income situation by moving jobs, making good investments but won’t officially marry until he can show ability to achieve more in life. I’ve made my first million at age 30 only after 5 years in the US [/quote]

You are not very driven either. 450k joint is good enough for a 300k single lifestyle. [/quote]

I dont know, it depends on his profession. If its some interesting area like phD/researcher types but a fed with 170K salary will be a hard no. These are types I would not have much in common. [/quote]

Hey Siri where of your ridiculous salary expectations fed attorneys on the GS 15 scale top out at 176K[/quote]

And that's ok. They question is why they are fine continuing making 176k and not investing/doing side hustles. It's easy, fun and enables you not be dependent on a job 9-5, travel, afford more things for kids etc. I do travel to Alaska, Cote d'Azure, Italy and many other nice places couple times/year . I have travel budget of around 40k/year and it's important for me to see the world with my son and my parents. For a combined family income of 300K (2 feds) one cannot afford it[/quote]

Who says they don’t invest or have side hustles? They do they’re not making that much more… those types will still not meet your minimum ridiculous qualifications and those types also don’t wanna waste money on a bunch of travel either. Don’t worry—you’re too materialistic for even those people to be interested in you let alone the very rich people. you can’t land one of these types that you find less than desirable so you might as well just get an FWB and stop looking or start looking 55+ You really need a reality check[/quote]

I would presume these types would also have 2-3 kids and an ex-wife who doesn't make much money always asking for handouts. So basically remarrying them would impose on me 3-4 dependents. Why the heck would I want that? This is why I have the FB situation [/quote]

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