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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Several years ago I went through a phase like this. My poor husband was so patient at the time. What was really going on was that after the birth of my sons, I was forced to confront childhood sexual assaults I had essentially compartmentalized before that time. But having my little boys be the same age I was when I was assaulted and realizing just how vulnerable I was made me enormously angry, not just at my assaulter but at the world that coddled and protected him while leaving me vulnerable.

There are so, so many women with sex abuse in their histories, and we are taught not to talk about it. I didn’t tell anyone for years, not even my husband. But it festers and harms. And we don’t always handle it well.

I had to get therapy. And honestly, some days it is still a fight within myself not to be angry at what happened to me. But I don’t lash out at all men and in fact I am very careful not to because I have sons who are good boys and men, and I am married to a good man.

So maybe ask her what is going on? There might be more than you know. [/quote]

This is a very interesting insight. My wife does have an history of being on the receiving end of sexual harassment if not necessarily sexual assault.  The timing might have a correlation with our daughter reaching a similar age as when my wife had begun experiencing sexual harassment. [/quote]

PP here. I would seriously consider that as a possible trigger. For women with a history of assault and harassment, it can be extremely difficult to come to grips with seeing your children reach the same age you were when you were assaulted or harassed. It forces you to confront what happened, because you have a concrete example of just exactly how vulnerable you were right in front of you. And you have to live with the fear of that happening to your kids because the world has not changed, not really. I suspect your wife is looking at your daughter and is terrified for her, and isn’t handling it well.

Did she ever get therapy for the harassment, or attend a support group, or anything like that?[/quote]

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