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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If your beloved puppy drags diarrhea all across the rug, you clean it up and still love him.  It's like that.  Sometimes the love is greater than the infraction.[/quote]

You just compared cheating to diarrhea. And your partner to a dog.

The point of marriage is that you commit to honesty, fidelity, monogamy. That’s the whole point. If you can’t hack it then don’t stay married. And honestly, if someone can’t hack it then what they’ve messed up is not a contingent part of the relationship but the core of it. Very hard to come back and build a true love after that.[/quote]

DP. You speak for yourself.

The point of marriage for me is building a family and raising children. And that is the core for me. I would love to have monogamy( I have it right now)now, but if my DH can keep up with the kind of father he is right now, I will  definitely  forgive infidelity.  [/quote]

That’s kind of like saying, the whole point of a business is making money. And as long as my business partner rakes it in, I don’t mind if he’s embezzling.

Personally I prefer to work with someone I trust. [/quote]

It's not that I wouldn't mind. I too prefer to never have to deal with cheating, fingers crossed. However I dslike the impacts of divorce even more than i dislike the impact of staying with a cheater.

We are agreeing that cheating is a horrible thing to happen to a relationship.

However if there was a chance that my husband could be close to the same father that he is now( I don't know if that is possible), I will stay. I will trust him less, but I will stay. I am arguing that it is much more complicated for me than simply: " you cheat, we divorce". I have to consider hiw much worse off my children would be in either scenario.

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