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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If your beloved puppy drags diarrhea all across the rug, you clean it up and still love him.  It's like that.  Sometimes the love is greater than the infraction.[/quote]

You just compared cheating to diarrhea. And your partner to a dog.

The point of marriage is that you commit to honesty, fidelity, monogamy. That’s the whole point. If you can’t hack it then don’t stay married. And honestly, if someone can’t hack it then what they’ve messed up is not a contingent part of the relationship but the core of it. Very hard to come back and build a true love after that.[/quote]

Me thinks you don't understand analogies.[/quote]

Making messes in the house is natural and to be expected for a pet.
Sleeping with another person and lying about it is a choice and a massive betrayal for a spouse. [/quote]

Stop being dense.

Duh, cheating is betrayal.

Anyway, because you clearly are unable to synthesize an analogy, the point is when you really love someone, you can forgive them and really move on.  Or, if you can't, you can't.  Complaining won't get anybody anywhere.[/quote]

I’m a different poster and I agree it was a dumb analogy. There’s only one person in this world who can fairly compare crapping in the house with cheating, and that’s Johnny Depp.

A better one would be if your kid murdered someone. Does your love trump the infraction? For some yes, others no. [/quote]

Stop with the analogies.  A child who commits murder isn’t committing an offense against the parent.  It isn’t about live trumping the infraction.

Marriage is an intimate relationship which requires trust between two partners. [b]When one person has broken that trust in such a serious way, the other person is not obligated to continue the relationship[/b] just because of live. Love does not require self-subjugation to abuse.

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I assume this means any and all trust, right?  Or does only sex count in your mind?  There are plenty of ways to let down your spouse and lose trust.  Perhaps your spouse experiences job loss and you no longer trust them to contribute to finances.  Maybe your spouse isn’t a good parent.  Maybe your spouse doesn’t handle the in-laws well.  I could go on…. Just seems strange to only focus on sex and fidelity as requiring trust.  [/quote]

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