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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why did  you marry this guy? Were you not thinking straight? or Did you marry for money?[/quote]

I loved him and had no idea it would be as isolating as it is.[/quote]

You guys need to sit down and have a heart to heart. Preferably with a counselor. You need to really speak up for yourself. You have a pattern of putting other people first and hoping they’ll return the favor. That’s not how this works.

He needs to know that this lifestyle makes you miserable. Together, you need to sort out another option. It could mean that he resigns/retires and looks for work near DC so you have a community. It makes sense that after a period of prioritizing his career/needs, there is going to be a period of prioritizing your needs. Otherwise the relationship will be imbalanced and full of resentment.

Ditto for the cooking and childcare. You’re doing it all and unhappy with your role, but you need to SPEAK UP. This isn’t working for me. I need you to X & Y so I can have some time to make friends and take care of myself. I’m not doing well with these frequent moves. I didn’t realize how isolating it would be. Etc. SPEAK UP.[/quote]

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