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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People are way too outraged by what other people do in the privacy of their home. Yet are often not outraged by stuff that really matters outside of the home. [/quote]
Because what happens inside the home can create monsters who do outrageous things outside the home. [/quote]

But there are plenty of other things that create monsters. I don’t spank but I reject this idea that every child that is spanked turns into a monster. The same can be said for people who came out of other not so great situations. It’s not a one size fits all to me. Every kid that gets spanked, sees someone die, gets verbally abused, loses their mom/dad, is exposed to drugs or whatever the case may be does not always turn into some monster. We have got to stop projecting things on people. My own aunt was never spanked and would be considered a failure in ever sense of the word. Stuff happens and life happens. I have friends that spank and I think their kids are fine. I can have my opinion and not make comments insinuating that they are horrible. In my own opinion I feel people that don’t have religion and spirituality are a disgrace but I’m not going to project that their kid is bad or will be horrible. [/quote]

I was spanked. I am not a monster. Spanking is still wrong.

I have a crappy relationship with my parents, in part due to them hitting me. I had to work hard to develop impulse control and emotional management as an adult because as a kid, my parents didn't teach it to me -- they just hit me.

Hitting people is wrong, you should not hit people. As an adult, I sometimes feel a strong desire to hit other people. Where does that come from? From being hit as a child. I have worked hard to learn to control that urge. I have to, unless I want to wind up arrested or socially ostracized. Why have I had to learn to control that urge with people, but if a parent feels the urge to hit their child, it's okay? That makes no sense.

Either hitting people is wrong or it isn't. If you really think that spanking children is fine, then I should be allowed to hit you because I think you're wrong, shouldn't I? Or are you only allowed to hit your property? I mean your kids, obviously, your kids -- we don't think of children as property anymore... do we?[/quote]

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