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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am constantly in awe that sahms have in the last 20 years created this narrative that their only duty during 8-6 every day should be attending to their children, and that other than loading the dishwasher and putting on laundry, it is an affront for them to do any other chores about the house.

It's clearly a ridiculous untruth that exists solely in the minds of maybe the top 10% of households (because as people above have noted, obviously MOST women staying home with young kids are cleaning their house and don't have cleaners).  But I can't believe that it's become the dominant narrative on sites like this.  Do the people echoing this narrative really believe it? Or do you say it because you have to repeat it over and over to justify your set up?  Or are you trolls?  It's just be fascinating to watch this line of thinking evolve in the last 20 years.

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1) Parenting expectations have risen dramatically in the past 50 years.
2) This family has a special needs child. That isn't something to dismiss. 
3) This woman is NOT a stay at home mom. She also works on the weekends! Which her husband completely dismisses!
4) Budget decisions need to be made jointly. From what he's posted, it looks like he decided that they needed preschool, picked one, and decided that the cost should be covered by firing the housecleaner, WITHOUT deciding he would pick up any housecleaning tasks. How easy to make budget cuts that don't actually affect you. She doesn't want to fire the housecleaner. Find something else to budge on![/quote]

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