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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Who cares what anybody does or does not “want to see” as long as private parts are covered (I’m assuming OP’s DD is wearing a standard-cut bikini bottom and just has some hair on upper thighs which is not a private part)?  She doesn’t exist for the visual satisfaction of others and I think it’s really great that she realizes that at such a young age.

Also the “unaware of social norms” stuff seems out of place.  Unless this kid lives a very sheltered existence I’m sure she is fully aware of the prevailing beauty standards.[/quote]

OP back again. She is very aware of social norms and I think this is one of her ways of rebelling against them. It’s not really relevant but she also is currently identifying as part of the LBGTQ+ community. I’m trying hard not to put labels on her and just be a supportive parent. So much around us is so supportive and accepting of everything now.  This is where some of her logic about men is coming from. And I don’t know, I’ve seen some pretty hairy men in speedos so I’m not sure the argument that they all shave applies. It hasn’t been in the US but it happens.

But I agree with many of you, the world is a harsh place and exposed pubic hair may be a little much even for accepting Nova. [/quote]

Funny. I swear you are me. I am also battling this as a Mom of an empowered she/they and a pansexual leaning towards girls right now. We went to Mexico and she trimmed her underarm her but did not shave her legs, underarms nor public area. I told her she needed to if she was going to wear bikinis and she flat out said no. I am not for hair and shave and wax regularly everywhere, so this has been a challenge. She does not seem to care either. She did not get any attention but I was anxious about it. [/quote]

This is my teen daughter, too. Proudly hairy and offended at the idea of being anything else. I have to admit it makes me extremely self-conscious on her behalf, but she doesn’t seem to care. Any suggestions about grooming, self-care, or impressions on others are not received well.[/quote]

If I were you, I'd be proud of my daughter for not giving in to societal pressures to alter their looks to be more "pleasing" to the eye, as if our bodies are made for the consumption of random people that happen to be around us at any given time. I certainly am not as brave as they are, but  I admire their self confidence and feel hopeful for future generations of women.[/quote]

Sounds like a small activist minority are the ones pressuring others to not groom themselves or have decent personal hygiene. New age hippies. Cool. Bet they love the attention too. Gender fluidity is where it’s at, it’s the new goth. Maybe layer on some more piercings and tats with the bushy bush and pits, good to go. [/quote]

They don’t care what you think. But if you want to waste your time and energy complaining about how other people look, that’s up to you. [/quote]

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