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[quote=Anonymous]I haven't read all eight pages and the responses directly above mine are all related to high school and although elementary kids will grow into high school kids, I think by then the choices kids make are a little more intentional.  I have two ES kids - both genders.  My son has always been popular.  I am in a unique position that I knew many of elementary school teachers well and socially and they would all joke that they wish they were as popular as him when they were in school.  I would say that he is kind, charismatic, energetic, athletic, but most importantly confident.  Kids are naturally drawn to him everywhere we go and he makes friends easily on vacation and random places.  My daughter is the opposite of him, except still kind.  The same teachers always called her a loner and for years I worried about it but just realized that different kids have different personalities.  I think mothers tend to push their daughters to try and be popular due to their own lingering insecurities left over from their childhoods.  I don't want my daughter to be "popular" per se, but I watch my son who makes friends so easily and is always included and then watch her struggles and can't help but want the same thing for her.

TL;DR, some kids are born with a healthy sense of confidence that draws others to them and some are not.  Whether it's intentional or subconscious, human beings are drawn to confident people and their energy and those who have it will spend their life being popular.[/quote]

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