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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have as much sympathy for those with 7 figure HHI as I do for Will Smith and his wife's Alopecia.  She can buy a wig.  You can hire all the help you need.
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Many of you are acting like a 7-figure income is license to throw your money around. It doesn’t actually go that far in the DMV, if you have a nice house and pay for private school. You can have a FT nanny *or* housekeeper but not both unless you don’t want savings.[/quote]

This.  I was going to say this, but didn’t because I knew I’d get flamed.  After taxes of 40%, it’s really not the luxurious lifestyle many of you think it is.

OP - I could have written this post - I am you down to the 3 kids. DH does no housework, but is engaged with the kids when he’s around and puts one of them to bed nightly (rotating basis).  I would be happier going back to work and using all of my income to pay a nanny,  but I don’t because all of my leave would be used for kid related stuff - illness, conferences, blah blah blah, and DH isn’t on board with that because he can do whatever he wants (perk of big job) and we wouldn’t be able to travel. We have a once a week housecleaner, but I drive everyone everywhere and cook all meals.  I do grocery pickup and we have an occasional sitter, but mostly it’s all me and it’s mundane and boring.  No real advice but I do commiserate with you!![/quote]

Op here. Thank you for understanding. Some people are acting as if we live some sort of extravagant lifestyle. My kids do expensive extracurriculars and we travel often and well but it is not some richy rich maid life.

I recently had an informational meeting and was interested in taking a class for professional growth. I cant find time to take the class. I can barely find time to have a meal with a friend because my kids’ schedules are so busy. We are traveling back to back because my kids have different spring breaks. I know these are first world problems but they are my problems.[/quote]

Same and same.  Minus the housekeeper.  I would love one but find sometimes it is more hassle than help, so I just do it myself too.
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Agree that sometimes the hiring process and managing of someone is more hassle than help.  Unfortunately.[/quote]

Unless the time and effort spent managing things like this “counts” when you’re dividing up labor. So if doing it means something else comes off your plate, its not a big deal. The problem is when one parent is responsible just for work and the other is responsible for work *and* outsourcing logistics. [/quote]

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