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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have as much sympathy for those with 7 figure HHI as I do for Will Smith and his wife's Alopecia.  She can buy a wig.  You can hire all the help you need.
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Many of you are acting like a 7-figure income is license to throw your money around. It doesn’t actually go that far in the DMV, if you have a nice house and pay for private school. You can have a FT nanny *or* housekeeper but not both unless you don’t want savings.[/quote]

This.  I was going to say this, but didn’t because I knew I’d get flamed.  After taxes of 40%, it’s really not the luxurious lifestyle many of you think it is.

OP - I could have written this post - I am you down to the 3 kids. DH does no housework, but is engaged with the kids when he’s around and puts one of them to bed nightly (rotating basis).  I would be happier going back to work and using all of my income to pay a nanny,  but I don’t because all of my leave would be used for kid related stuff - illness, conferences, blah blah blah, and DH isn’t on board with that because he can do whatever he wants (perk of big job) and we wouldn’t be able to travel. We have a once a week housecleaner, but I drive everyone everywhere and cook all meals.  I do grocery pickup and we have an occasional sitter, but mostly it’s all me and it’s mundane and boring.  No real advice but I do commiserate with you!![/quote]
NP here. I believe all this, and I think you are sort of making excuses. If a job would make you happier than now, who cares that kid stuff will eat your PTO so your poor DH can't travel. That's his problem. If it's about the kids traveling, he can travel without you...or he could, you know, step up occasionally. At the same time, many of the things you think you'll have to take time off for can be handled by a FT nanny.

Raising kids when either parent has a demanding job is hard, but money makes it much easier. We have $1M HHI and a FT nanny with elementary aged kids. It isn't easy, but it works [/quote]

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