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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, if sleep training won’t work for your child, you have to commit to doing something to help him sleep. If he’s wild with exhaustion, he needs help or medication or something. I’m a PP whose second child didn’t respond to sleep training, and my husband and I didn’t many nights sleeping while holding him in a chair! I spent several months sitting by his crib for an hour holding his hand til he fell asleep, even after he was able to sleep through the night. He finally starting falling asleep fast and staying asleep all night when we dropped his nap at 2.5.

To me, if you know you don’t want to CIO, just cosleep from the beginning. A lot of people who try to cosleep later either do it on nights where they are desperate bc their kid is having a particularly bad night, but it’s not going to work bc your kid is having a bad night that night. Or it’s such a novel thing that the kid can’t relax while cosleeping for the first couple nights.[/quote]

I completely agree, I just haven’t found the answer. CMPA diet hasn’t fixed it. We’ve been to 3 different pediatricians who have all been dismissive and said she’s doing great. We’ve tried: cosleeping (huge failure), every sleep sack imaginable, Babywise schedule and many different bedtimes, mini crib, Snoo, bassinet, regular crib, our room, own room, different temperatures, solids, Dohm and Hatch sound machines, dad puts to sleep, mom puts to spring, dream feeds, “le pause”, a lovey, I could go on and on. We are trying. It’s all I think about. Trust me, the urgency of helping my child get enough sleep and avoid cognitive decline is not lost on me.

Despite her not getting enough sleep, she’s very happy and always wakes up happy, almost never cries, and is hitting her all milestones. I think that’s why pediatricians are blowing us off.[/quote]

Can I ask how much total sleep she gets in 24hours? Much is made about nighttime sleep but as long as she is meeting the average 24hr needs she is fine. 12-16 hours TOTAL is considered normal. The stories you hear about kids who sleep 12 hours overnight and still nap 2x for 1-2 hours are at the other end of the spectrum. If your kid sleeps 8hrs total over the night (8p-8am with 2 wakeups) and has (2) 1.5 hour+ naps plus a mini nap of 30-1hr she is getting enough sleep. It isnt the way you want it or isnt the way our society typically works but that might be what she needs.

I really think that some kids who take until 2/3 to sleep overnight for long stretches are frequent or long nappers. They prefer sleep in bits vs one long consolidated sleep. Every kid I know who sleep 10-12 hours overnight at some young age is either on the high end of sleep needs (upper limit or over so 16-17 hours for a 7month old) or they drop naps faster.
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