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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is wild.  People are really letting vaccination status tear apart their family?  Sounds like there was already a rift, but c’mon. You’re not letting your kid have a normal childhood because of covid?  I can’t imagine going to such extreme measures to avoid covid.  I’m assuming you lived a normal life pre-COVID even though it was full of risks including for your spouse.  I’d try to take a step back, look at the big picture and figure out what the end game is for tour family.  This seems like no way to live. [/quote]

Op here.

You’re really blowing this out of proportion. I took the advice of DCUM and DH is fine with DS and I  to see my sister and her children at a park or in public with a mask until DS can be vaccinated.

He is not comfortable with indoor gatherings with unvaccinated family with prolonged contact, shared surfaces, food, etc.

It’s not "tearing my family apart", my sister chose to not vaccinate and my husband is choosing boundaries for our family. Yes, he does not like my sister and thinks she’s a user. But he only has to see her at thanksgiving or Christmas. We won’t be in town this year for my nieces birthdays and my family doesn’t really get together for big gatherings aside from holidays. [/quote]

Is your husband really covid-anxious in general? His level of concern seems out of proportion, so either he’s a naturally covid-anxious person or he’s using covid to mask other feelings about his in-laws.

My wife is a gastroenterologist who manages patients on methotrexate, biologics, and, (as more of a secondary provider) immunosuppressants in post-transplant patients. She says despite early concern about the impact of methotrexate and biologics on covid outcomes, the studies from the pandemic seem to show they're not associated with a significantly higher risk of severe outcomes. If the medications can't be held post-vaccination, they might not have as strong of an immune response, but in many patients that will be offset by setting the third and fourth shots. Many of these patients are ultimately at high risk due to other factors- age and other comorbidities- but the medication they're on is a relatively small part of the increased risk these patients face.

Immunosuppressants in transplant recipients are another story. They're pretty high risk, although even that seems to depend a lot on the combination of immunosuppressants they're on, the condition that led to the transplant, the organ they received, and the length of time since the transplant.[/quote]

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