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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No major ramifications for us, but I did expose my husband to thing that he would never had experienced if he had married someone in his neighborhood/town.

- reading for pleasure, or even really reading after HS. His parents were busy working all the time, multiple shifts, and they didn't grow up with books in the house.  He was fascinated with my reading habits, but now after 20 years of marriage he is a casual reader. He understands getting lost in a story.
- theatre: plays and musicals.  He would go with me, but think both the costs of going were exorbitant.  Our daughter is a musical fanatic, so he keeps up with songs and will take her to shows 
- buying our first home was tough. We qualified for a much larger purchase price, but he couldn't get over spending a "half million" on a home.  He would never say 500 thousand.  He always translated it to a million.  
- food prices.  There are a few places he will just concede are better tasting, but he will mention the insanity of paying $20 for a hamburger, when you can get one off of the dollar menu.  This has gotten a little better as time has gone on, though if his parents are visiting we just do not let them see menu prices if we go out. He will order and we bring it home, or just have it brought to the table.   
- He's having a huge amount of sticker shock at college tuition.  It's a lot, but we can afford to pay for our kid's tuition, so I'm insisting on doing so. 
- He grew up being charged by his parents for anything outside of shelter/food (from about 14-18). At 18 they had to pay rent to live at home.  I really had to put my foot down that we aren't charging our teen and college aged kids for things.  We can afford to let them live with us "rent free" while they are actively working and on college breaks. It's not like we are giving them new cars, and fancy electronics, or taking them on shopping trips. [/quote]

Interesting. My husband grew up LMC and MC and he has much of the same metal hang ups around money. He doesn’t understand that yes, things cost that much. You cannot get a decent home in this area for 300k no matter how much you lament it. Yes, a decent home will cost “a million dollars”. He cannot comprehend paying more for organic foods or caring about certain brands of clothes. He steps out of the house even today in sneakers, jeans and a T shirt. He finds button downs to be restrictive and boring.

It’s funny because his younger sister who grew up in the same house, married rich and has transitioned seamlessly into her UC life as the wife of a banker. She loves spending money and the more expensive something is, the better.

My husband balks at spending $250 for a hotel room and she only stays at hotels no less than 1k a night. Growing up they’d stay at Holiday Inns.

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