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[quote=Anonymous]This OP again and thanks so much to the Tufts poster about your DC’s positive experience. I will share your tip about the student association!

And l to the PP about stats: YES, I absolutely read yours and other posters’ arguments very carefully, and considered them. Overall I think these rankings are not terribly useful and create unnecessary stress. I understand the perspective that being obsessed with them is linked to insecurity. That makes sense. In my DH case I think they are less linked to insecurity and more tied to the fact that in this case they just served to bolster his argument that Emory would be the best choice for DS. This is just conjecture, but I bet if Tufts had been ranked higher he wouldn’t be as ranking-oriented (meaning he loved Emory so much he would still vote for that).

If DS had decided he wanted to apply to Princeton and got in, however, I bet the ranking thing would kick in again and he’d be fine with him choosing that over Emory! As mentioned, he comes from a family where everyone is highly educated and people talk a LOT about universities: where is everyone going. Where are people teaching. Who has tenure. It’s way more than the typical family, I think. I think it just looms larger in his life than a lot of other people (both of his parents are academics and his sister and BIL, and various other family members). When I first shared the story of the cousin who dropped out and started a wacky business and made a lot of $ (it had to do with old plumbing parts and supplies and it turns out he hit gold with some extremely rare items that serious renovators paid a ton of $ for, and then he knew how to ferret them out because most people had no idea they were worth so much). He ended up selling the business and retiring early. But my in-laws first question was, “but did he go back to school?” LOL. So you see where this heads are.

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