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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I see lots of threads on DCUM about regrets not divorcing earlier.  What about the other side -- do you regret divorcing your ex?

Since the question always comes from somewhere, here's my situation:  husband had a long term affair that ended when I found out several years ago.  He almost got into another (if not acted on it, but I can't confirm and he denies).  I buried the feelings and moved on in the marriage and its been....fine.  I am now at a place where I'm at least ready to deal with the betrayal and am taking concrete steps to do that, and that could lead me to a place where I want to leave the marriage.  I have to heal me, first, regardless of my relationship status.  But then...???  Lots of big scary things.  We have elementary/middle school aged children.  So, back to my question....do you regret your divorce?[/quote]
I stayed in the marriage long after I realized she had no sincere intent to address her selfish attitudes and passive aggressive behavior and did so primarily for the children. Never ceased efforts to get things right/better but while they would change for a time never any permanent progress on her end.

Eventually gave a timeline, worked on myself while she did little to nothing and we divorced when the youngest was in college. Over 20 years later I do not regret for a minute that I gave that to my children. I loved their mother, and still do, but was not willing to continue to live with her.[/quote]

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