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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We moved from North Arlington to Fairfax County (to a lower rated school) because I did not want my mixed (south asian/white) children being the only non-white kids in their classes (and yes, North Arlington is VERY white).  Been there, done that and I hated being one of three non-white kids in my class.  I wanted my children to be part of an inclusive, diverse school.  Our Fairfax County school is maybe 30% Asian/South Asian, 30% Hispanic, 30% White and 10% African-American/African/Mixed/Other.  My kids have friends of all races/colors/religions, they have several other mixed-race friends, and they are very happy.  [/quote]

I’m mixed race and so is my husband, and North Arlington is not SO white that my kids have ever been “onlies.”  [b]It’s frustrating to me that people complain about the lack of diversity, but then people of color don’t ever move here.[/b] I mean, how will it ever change if people make the same decision you made? I understand your choice and don’t judge you for it, but I think we could easily tip this area to be more diverse if a few more folks moved in. It wouldn’t take much, and a lot of young families with one Asian parent have moved into my neighborhood lately, so I’m hopeful for change. [/quote]

Here's the thing - I am not trying to experiment with MY kids. It is not the responsibility of my children to be the ones to diversify a school and deal with white people who would rather they not be there. We are in an entire race war in America right now because white Americans have their hair on fire over the prospect of their children being taught the truth about all the messed up things white people have done to minorities in the past.

Bully for you for willing to be a trailblazer and allow your children to be the blockbusters in N Arlington. It doesn't need to be me or my kids. The white people who choose to live in lily white communities are making an intentional choice. They don't say it in those terms, but we all know what is meant when they opine about looking for good schools and close knit neighborhoods and the like. I do not want to live amongst those people. Those are the people who will call the cops on your teen son if he half south Asian with darker skin. Those are the people who will quietly suggest that their son not date your daughter. There are many, many places to live in this region that have wonderful schools and diverse populations. They CHOSE the whitest of the white places. They will give a thousand reasons why a certain neighborhood was just the best on because of their commute, or the house was so charming, or they just love N. Arlington (or Chevy Chase, et al) but keep in mind that these people are going out of their way to find the whitest places on purpose. If you are east Asian and figure, well, that won't happen to us, because our kids are light skinned and will be considered acceptable, you are also part of the problem. So, don't complain about the other ways that white people discriminate against you if you aren't willing to also do what is right and not stand for all the other kinds of discrimination. This is how the model minority myth hurts us all.[/quote]

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