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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]To be honest when my wife stopped working we estimated the first 60k of income was lost due to added expenses.

But it is more than that. Once my wife stopped working I could work late, join outside professional organizations, work longer hours. Be available. Not always as not necessary. But I was not the run out the door type.

Out of all my family and cousins my brother and I have the highest HHI with SAHM wives. I no longer make big money. But I was making 400k for a 15 year run that started when my kids were 6, 4 and a new born. No way could we manage that HHI with both working with 3 kids. Childcare, maid, take out, commute would have been nightmare and neither of us would have held a high paying job.

My brother has held down a 400k to 650k job for 23 years. His. Wife quit when oldest was 1. [/quote]

This was our experience too. I (DW) fought to stay in the labor market and did so for many years with 3 kids but after I quit due to a health crisis our HHI tripled with one earner. That doesn't happen to everyone but I know a number of families where the sole earner's income shot up dramatically once the juggling act ended. [/quote]

Same here.  I became a SAHM and my DH was able to get more professional credentials and certifications.  We had always kept our COL low and we were doing a decent job of saving and investing, so with my quitting work, we were still able to  accumulate wealth on one hand, but also my DH's salary went up a lot.

With the pandemic and teens and DH working from home, the household has continued to work efficiently and smoothly because I am home and not doing an office job. [/quote]

I don't really see how my DHs income could.get any higher. He's a surgeon and has a private practice. I actually enjoy working because I'd be alone so much if I didn't. We do have a wonderful nanny, as I'm also in medicine though I'm a nurse anathesologist. I have a pretty consistent schedule. My kids are now older and our nanny has transitioned into housekeeping amd driving the kids around. I have to say I'm honestly glad my life isn't hers. I get the best of times and get to scrap the grunt work.  [b]I don't really see much value in doing laundry, grocery shopping, and vacuuming. [/b][/quote]

NP here - this is basically me. I'd rather stay in 3-hour meetings or write code / reports than clean up toilets or mop. Even if we'd keep our weekly cleaning service, I know I'd be expected to pull more in terms of organizing and planning the household, and to me, it's already mind-numbing enough as it is. So, to me, WOH is much much more enjoyable than SAH. After working my a** off at MIT for 2 years to get a MSci, I can't imagine the highlight of my day being washing my H's boxer briefs. [/quote]

Huh? :lol:  :lol:  This is DC. The SAHMs  here are well-off.  Many of us in this area are also from priviledged backgrounds from other cultures/countries and were used to having domestic staff.  I have always had a cleaning lady and someone to do other household chores for me at least twice a week.  Culturally, my DH and I have no problem in paying the tippy-top dollars  to get the best help because that was a normal expense for us.  The pandemic has been the only time that I have drastically pared down on domestic staffing. Thankfully, kids are in HS and my DH takes care of the cooking because he likes to cook - so I can manage the rest without the level of help I was used to.

Anyways, I actually appreciate the WOHMs who work for me and make my life easier. Do these WOHMs count?

- SAHM of HS kids.  [/quote]

Jesus, you are out of touch.

- Someone who's head isn't shoved up their arse. [/quote]

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