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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m curious where you’d draw the line?

I understand that wetting the bed can happen even in older kids. How long is it okay for a kid to walk around the house in diapers? 4? 5? 6? 7? 8? 9? 10? Along the same lines, if a kid sleeps naked at home is it okay for them to hang out with family friends with no clothes on before bed? [/quote]

There is a huge difference between a kid who wets the bed occasionally and one who does it 3-4 nights a week. There are many kids at age 4 who simply do not wake up when they have to pee, and trying to night train them would be hugely disruptive to their sleep and to household happiness.

That number diminishes with each ear as kids grow, their hormones shift, and they develop larger bladders. But if an 8 or 9 or 10 year old who was otherwise totally normal with regards to urination and bowel movements (no accidents or issues) but continued to pee in their sleep at least once a week, I don't see anything wrong with that child wearing a pull-up until they can either stay dry naturally or they get medical treatment that might help them get there.

There is no shame in pull-ups (or diapers, whatever you want to call them -- pull-ups are different because older kids can actually be independent with them whereas a diaper would be awkward for a child who wears underwear and uses the toilet on their own to deal with).

Let me repeat: there is no shame in pull-ups.

And since there is no shame, I don't see why anyone who has to wear a pull-up for the above reasons would not be okay walking around their house in their pull-up assuming it is normal for kids that age to walk around the house in their underwear. I've found kids develop shyness about that sometimes starting as young as 6, but almost always by 7 or 8, and I think it's unlikely they'd choose to do so. But some kids don't care and if it's in the privacy of your home, who cares?

If a child has to wear a pull up for any reason, why are people expecting them to hide it as though it's some embarrassing thing? It's not. I would not advertise it at school or discuss it in public, because it's personal and private, but within our immediate family or very close family friends, I don't see the issue.

What do you think the issue is? I really don't understand.[/quote]

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