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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In a way it’s endearing that they feel so comfortable at the sister’s home to make themselves feel at home enough to seek out couches for napping.  It sounds like they relish these naps.  It’s their routine for some reason.  I wouldn’t feel comfortable doing this, but they have been doing it for years according to the Op.  Why is this now becoming an issue for you, Op?[/quote]

Exactly this. I find this culture so weird that they’d find napping inconsiderate and unnatural. These people aren’t strangers. Let them be. I wouldnt mind it one bit if my sister or BIL napped at my house. I want them to feel at home. But that’s my culture.[/quote]

I think it’s rude.  You go to someone’s home to enjoy their company, to catch up - not to fall unconscious and make that person feel like they need to be quiet in their own home to make sure you can sleep soundly.  [/quote]

It’s her SISTER. Why are you all so freaking formal with each other even with blood relatives? I don’t get it[/quote]

Is it a white people thing?  It would be very common in my culture where close relatives would feel comfortable enough to nap. [/quote]

It might be a white people thing, but I’m white and I think the behavior OP describes is beyond weird. When I visit my brother and MIL I often do take naps, but it’s during a visit that is long, like all-day, and DH and the kids are hanging around people. (DH might do it too). And I definitely wouldn’t expect people to be quiet for me. [/quote]

So you take naps at relatives’ homes even for a 1 day visit- you just happen to think your conditions for it are okay?  I mean even your kid could stay up. It’s not weird for you but weird for OP’s sister?[/quote]

Yes because I can’t go home and nap because of a) distance and b) I’m with people who are still visiting and I can’t ditch them there. [/quote]

Listen, I’m very pro sleep (different than pro nap). Your reasons on why your nap is ok and OP’s sister’s nap is weird is not the great difference you seem to think it is.[/quote]

Well agree to disagree. I mean, another thing is that my MIL would think I was nuts to go home and sleep when there’s a perfectly good bed in the basement, or to try to stay awake when I’m nodding off during a conversation, and clearly OP doesn’t feel the same way about her guests. So yeah there are pretty good distinctions here but I’d you’re anti-nap in general of course you’re not going to agree. [/quote]

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