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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It would give me pause. I am in my late 30s and have 4 close friends who have already divorced. In 3 out of 4 of those cases, the person asking for the divorce has divorced parents. The outlier has parents who are still married but went through multiple separations when the family was young. [/quote]

I agree. I think the more that divorce is normalized growing up, the more likely someone will turn to it. [/quote]'

Divorce is not a sign of failure and there is nothing wrong with it.

[i][b]Regular people[/b][/i] think a successful marriage is one that never ends. That mindset is a problem in it self.[/quote]

You're an idiot. Please don't get married. Enjoy a long-term, non binding relationship. Ever heard of "til death do we part"?

I don't see divorcees as FAILURES, but their marriage, by definition, failed. [/quote]

Sometimes the marriage failed. Sometimes the marriage was right for the couple when they were 20 and 30 and 40, but isn't right as they move into middle age. That's not a failure. It's just growing up. If you succesffully lived together for 20 years, you were successful for 20 years.  "Until death do us part" is unrealistic for people who get married in their 20s or 30s and live until they are 80+[/quote]

Sometimes the marriage was a mistake and never right from day one and people stay for YEARS or a DECADE or more becaues of the stigma of divorce and the stupid "try to make it work." When there is nothing there, there is no reason to stay. Not divorcing immediately destroyed my life. I am so sick of people trying to define marriage and divorce. The word "successful" should never come into play when describing either.[/quote]

Why? Because you weren’t strong enough to accept a failure, dust yourself off and move on we should all pretend there are successful and unsuccessful marriages?
 
Divorce is a failure even if it was the right decision because the bad decision of marriage (to that person ) was not foreseen and avoided.  Doesn’t make the divorcees bad people or globally failures. We all fail in life sometimes. No one is perfect and no life is perfect.[/quote]

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