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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was infertile for many years and fully lived CF. But I was still trying. I talked to many people CF and all of them had a good reason. They just don’t tell everyone. Health, death in the family, trauma, infertility, know they don’t have a maternal instinct, dysfunctional family, older husband, husband with a disability, genetic issues in the family, alcoholism and related issues, career that require a lot of travel … so many reasons. 
I think more people regret having children than not having children actually. And the statistics bear that out. Everyone regrets something. [/quote]

Unfortunately, it’s just totally unacceptable to say you regret having kids, because it would hurt the kids to hear it. But many people do, and I think we’d all be better off if we could be more open about this. I’m childless so some parents feel comfortable confiding in me about how much they dislike parenting and even their children. They do their best out of duty, and they’re good people, but they flat out do not like their children. [/quote]

I love my child with all my heart but if I'd known there'd be a pandemic I would have stayed childfree. I'm only a good parent on extreme easy mode (a ton of help, no huge life-altering stressors like COVID). Otherwise it is a struggle and[b] I outsource as much as I can. Thank goodness I didn't have a crystal bal[/b][b]l.[/quote]
Thanks goodness you're rich AS so you can 'outsource' as much as you can. Ugh.[/quote]

I'm not rich at all, I'm poor by this forum's standards! I outsource to daycare and helpful grandparents/family members and weekly babysitters. I also lean on a partner who is very helpful and does his fair share.[/quote]

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