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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Married for just a few years and love DW to death, however, I do all three of these. Reason being, she’s just on the vanilla side and I find that she has pretty much has little to no interest in the things I’m interested in. She doesn’t know the frequency of my porn watching but knows it happens, and even knows about my personal sex toys.

Fantasies? Who doesn’t have those? I’ll likely never tell DW those because there’s no point if she’s not interested in said acts. I’m pretty sure hers are all pretty tame though and hopefully she’s fulfilled all of her fantasies. [/quote]

Are there any DWs out there whose husbands think they are very vanilla about sex practices but who harbor much more adventuresome or wild fantasies that they just don't want to share with their husbands?  Why not?  Fear of disapproval or just a desire to keep that private?  Fear that it would lead down a road that will end somewhere you don't want to be in terms of activities?  Can anyone share what those fantasies are?
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I used to, but after 14 years he knows most of them now. We were raised religious and my fantasies are almost all “sins,” (public, less-than-consensual, FF, MFF) so that was embarrassing/shameful. I don’t remember how I got more comfortable sharing. I think it was leaving religion behind, mostly. I don’t into detail about the MFM stuff because he said when he thinks about another guy around it’s not arousing.

But one of my fantasies is for whatever effed up reason him cheating on me so I’m not sharing that one! I’m not worried about giving him ideas, but know that he will tease me whenever I say something about how infidelity is so horribly wrong. [/quote]

Sounds like you know each other very well and have a good relationship.  Religion definitely can create an issue with guilt on all three of these activities.  Not sure that fantasy is effed up -- it is a fantasy, after all, not a real wish.  And it could be alluring because in it you envision him behaving a different way sexually, perhaps in a way you wish, albeit with another person.  Or it could be the common experience we all have of getting more interested in a partner if some third person is showing interest in them.  Or it could be just the forbidden aspect of that -- many fantasies have the component of something forbidden.

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