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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you can find time to read or listen to Eve Rodsky’s “Fair Play” which addresses all the tasks related to keeping a household running. 
I listened to it and my husband bought the cards because I told him that I didn’t feel like our parenting was in equitable situation.

She breaks it down into CPE, conceive, plan and execute- all the things, like making appointments, planning bday parties, etc.

https://www.fairplaylife.com/about-the-book

I think it saved my marriage and sanity and hugely growing sense of resentment that I was ON POINT FOR EVERY THING!!

[b]If we don’t talk about this our kids will be having the same challenges once they are parents. 
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It has to stop somewhere.

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+1,000

I have two daughters and I think one of the reasons I am so insistent that they see my husband doing everything I do is because I don't want them to marry men and end up on this board in situations like OP's. [/quote]

I just clicked on this link and looked through some of the cards.  I have to say that it feels kind of overwhelming to think about everything that needs to be done in a household all at once.  There are 100 cards!

I really like the CPE concept though.  We are in a good place in our marriage right now, and I have been talking with my husband about feeling overwhelmed, but it's hard to know where to start with splitting things up.  I think that starting with just talking about taking over tasks from Conception to Planning to Execution would be really helpful and cut down on the communication gaps and redundancy.  I have found out recently that it's actually really difficult to be handed something to execute when you didn't do the conceiving and planning part of it.  On the flip side, it's very frustrating to have someone else only notice (or completely take the credit for) the execution when most of the work was conceiving and planning.

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