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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]I didn't read all the posts but it is SO child dependent that you should not get smug. [/b]My second child was a beautiful sleeper from day 1. They got worried in the hospital because she slept so long but she was gaining weight properly so we let her sleep and made sure she ate a lot during the day. She was always put down sleepy but awake in her crib because I also had a 2 year old to deal with, and - again - that worked for her. She never had to be sleep trained and was sleeping 5+ hours at a time since she was a few weeks old. I felt guilty because I was so well-rested as a mom to a newborn and toddler.

My oldest, on the other hand, didn't sleep through the night until he was 8 months old and was miserable with naps. Every kid is different.

BTW, now at 4, my perfect sleeper has been waking us almost nightly for 6+ months now with nightmares, and the oldest is a fantastic sleeper. It can all change on a dime.  [/quote]

This x 1000!

My first was also a great sleeper.  Right from the start, we were getting 5-6 hour stretches between feedings.  The Ped said it was fine as long as weight gain continued, so we let her sleep.  She was also easy to put down for sleep and fell asleep quickly.  In my head, I was crushing the mom game.  Those people who were functioning on 2 and 3 hours of sleep didn't know how to do it properly, clearly... and then I had #2.

Number two humbled me and taught me I didn't know shiiiiiii.  I wasn't a first time mom killing with #1... I just got unbelievably lucky.

My kid #1 is now 20 and my kid #2 is 18, and they are still SO much like their little baby selves.  #1 is super independent, likes order and having a schedule, and pretty much keeps to a normal sleeping schedule (as much as college allows).  #2 is chaotic energy... his sleeping schedule is insane, too.  His instagram story from last week was him waking at 5 am to go to the gym to to use the good machines in peace & quiet, back to his dorm for a "nap" before his first class at 9 am, lunch at 10:30, classes until 3, a five mile run, a nap before dinner at 8 pm, and then doing work until the early morning.    [/quote]

This has nothing to do with the topic. OP posted about sleep training, not your kid eventually sleeping through the night. [/quote]

Yes it does. (NP) OP thinks her "training" is necessary and justified for her baby to sleep well.  Perhaps yes, perhaps no, but certainly her baby's temperament and sleep habits are at least partially out of her control and likely to change sometime in the future.[/quote]

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