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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Well OP you can see the attitude. BY GOD DONT BRING YOUR KID!!!! A bit over the top but there it is. Non twin moms never get that twins have a bond and so on. They lash out. And so strident about the need to separate them. Nice isn’t it? Signed twin mom. [/quote]

+1 also twin mom.  I agree on separating but the vitriol from non-twin moms is ridiculous. They just don't get it.[/quote]

non-twin mom here.  I don't agree with how the other people are presenting but, in my experience expecting twins to always do things together tends to  limit friendships.  My dd had twins sisters as friends and would have loved to done more things with the one twin because they had more in common.  The other twin tended to dominate the shyer  twin.    But because of twin mom attitude ( you  have to invite both or none) we didn't invite the one twin one so everyone missed out.

Just because they are twins, doesn't mean they are tied at the hips ( unless they are conjoined)[/quote]

I am the PP.  My point was that this is always an issue when you have twins.  I agree with separation; I was not advocating that.  But there are big feelings involved that non-twin moms do not understand.  When I first starting separating my twins for activities, they both cried and were scared and didn't understand.  One of my children asked why the kid didn't like her and genuinely thought she was being excluded on purpose.  And I felt bad because I am their mother.  Seeing your child in pain is difficult for both twin moms and singleton moms.

We worked through it and they are very independent now, but it doesn't help to hear harsh judgment from moms who have no idea what this is like.  The bond is there and it is different and sometimes it is delicate to navigate.  I don't think people need to accommodate this at all, I am just saying they could be a little nicer in the tone when giving advice about things they don't have any experience with.[/quote]

+1 (fellow twin mom). Have a heart for OP who is just trying to protect her little boy’s feelings if there is a way to do so. [/quote]

+2 and it’s really hard continuing to hear non twin parents insist it’s just like siblings. Realize that all the twin moms are universally saying it is NOT like different age siblings and that maybe you do not know or understand because it has not been your lived experience. [/quote]

DP but the twins are in different classrooms. Does the host even know the other twin? Why would the host child be expected to play with another kid at their house who they probably don't know well? From that perspective it is like any other sibling. If the kids were all in the same class maybe it would be different. And the b/g thing would give me pause. At that age my kids really only wanted to play with same sex friends, as did almost all of their friends.[/quote]

OP said she had this kid over to play with her twins at her house, so yes, the kid and the mom both know the twins.  That's where it gets a bit weird.[/quote]

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