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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why get so precious?
Regardless, feminist women are kidding themselves with “keeping their names.”  We have a patriarchal naming system, so if anything, you are just keeping and “passing on” your DAD’s name.

Seriously, it’s one dude’s name or another (your husband’s or your dad’s!)[/quote]

This is such a tired argument. The name I was born with is my name; I've had it my whole life as a person, including when I was adult enough to decide to get married. Why is it only my dad's name?[/quote]

Is your 2nd middle name your mom's maiden name? If not, why saddle your kid with extra names? The name given at birth will be their name their whole life, not just their dad's name. [/quote]

Yes, my 2nd middle name is my mother's maiden name. It's never been a problem, but I travel in fairly international circles. My kids have 4 names, and yes, it works for us. What is the problem? I literally don't understand your point.[/quote]

Because whatever name you give the kid is "their" name. One middle, 2, none, whatever. Your argument makes no sense.[/quote]

The person you are quoting here. I re-read your first message about how whatever name they chose will be their name their whole life, not just their dad's name. I couldn't agree more; that's why when I didn't change my name upon marriage I had zero issues with the fact that it was originally my dad's name-- it was my name, too.

At the same time, perhaps in large part because I didn't change my name upon marriage (and I will point out - neither did my DH), and because their last name was going to be my husband's last name, I wanted my last name in my kids' names somewhere, too. So, we gave them 4 names in total.

To me, it's been a complete non-issue. We travel a LOT - multiple passports on both sides. 4 kids; no issues whatsoever.  [/quote]

Sorry, it's been a complete non-issue outside what DCUM has told me in terms of it will be a bureaucratic disaster. It's never, ever been an issue. Sometimes people assume we are Latin and then they think that my last name is actually their "real" last name, but that is once or twice and I don't think it's terrible personally. Some men might feel threatened by that, I suppose, but thankfully I am not married to someone who would be. For what it's worth, it's also never been an issue as far as I am aware that I have a different last name than my husband other on DCUM, but again I am totally happy with that. if anything, it points out that we are not lemmings and if anyone has a problem with my different last name, I would totally be fine not being close to those people.

I think the world is going to only become more global and less sexist. [/quote]

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