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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I find the rate of $25 very high myself.  I have multiple teenage daughters and they don’t get near this. So I think it’s a little of very high expectations on your daughters part and very low on the SIL. But, in our family we help each other out and my kids would have done it for free on an occasional basis. Totally fine for your daughter to turn it down and stick to her terms, but so many better ways to handle it. 
I think you and your daughter are in the wrong. [/quote]

Your step daughter in law does babysitting fir free? FFS people she’s not Cinderella [/quote]

[b]We’d [/b]absolutely babysit family members for [b]free[/b]. And then I said if that’s not your situation, she’s free to politely decline. 
No reason to be hostile and over aggressive. [/quote]

Are you also doing the babysitting for free or is it just your daughter?  I think it is wrong of you not to have your daughter accept anything from family members.  In an emergency?  Sure.  But your daughter is going to be treated like a door mat and her time is worth something!  Would you expect your son to do things for free ( fix a tire or whatever?)  I don't think so.  This is the continuation of unpaid work that all women are expected to do..care for children, care for elders, housekeeping, meal planning etc.

You are not treating your daughter well.   My Mom had to babysit her siblings' children for free and she still grumbles about it many years later.  The elder sibs never watched us for free!   So please tell your cheap relatives to pay unless it is a real emergency![/quote]
Also, thanks for the lecture but I find it hilarious my son couldn’t babysit and he’d need to “fix a tire” in your example. And then you go on to lecture me about women’s unpaid work.  Clueless. [/quote]

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