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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would take out extra life insurance on him, in addition to consulting a lawyer. Maybe ask him about his plans? Has he started applying for non fed jobs already?

It's probable kids will eventually bring Covid home from school and he will be much more susceptible than if he was vaccinated. [/quote]

I'm not a Fed, but I am a contractor.  We will also be required to be vaccinated.

I would start preparing to leave now OP.  Consult a lawyer, figure out what housing you can afford, and start making plans.  If this is a hill he is going to die on, he will be unemployed soon.  He will also contract Covid soon.[/quote]

I wonder if it would be eye opening for him to do some family/financial planning with him about the cost of quitting - what benefits will you/he lose - health insurance, disability, sick leave, pension and contribution, vacation days, etc.  How much will it cost to pay for these when he quits? What would the impact be if he gets sick - like what is the best health insurance pal. and what deductibles and coinsurance and OOP has to be paid?  If he gets fired for not taking the vaccine will that adversely affect his ability to get employed elsewhere?  Where can he work that isn’t (eventualy) going to require a vaccine? 
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OP here -- I agree with this approach for a rational person, but as DH truly believes that the vaccines are poison and part of some larger globalist conspiracy, unfortunately I'm not sure if this pragmatic information will make a difference.

I'm meeting with an attorney tomorrow to see about my chances of getting sole legal custody (in MD) because I want to have full control over the health care decisions for the kids.  DH presents really well -- as in good looking, articulate, does not appear mentally ill -- and has a history of charming therapists etc. so I'm obviously concerned with how a judge would weigh my stated concerns vs. what they see in DH.  If 50/50 legal custody would mean that we both have to agree on medical decisions for the kids, this would make my life more rather than less difficult and I'm not sure divorce would be worth it emotionally or financially -- considering that we would have to go to trial if he contests on custody, right? So big $$$.

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You aren't going to get sole custody except if you can prove abuse or neglect and you cannot prove that.  They aren't going to take a parents rights away over vaccine status.  Do him a favor, get a divorce.  [/quote]

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