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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think OP is a typical man and the only feeling he’s allowed himself to have (due to socialization) is rage. So [b]he actually feels hurt or disappointed, [/b]but he has transformed this into anger because that’s an acceptable emotion for a man. I think he should get therapy, not because he’s a bad person, but because being able to identify and feel a range of emotions is healthy. [/quote]

Thank you - [b]I’m hurt and disappointed, not angry. When I feel this way I just label it as anger or being pissed off.[/b] I’m upset and confused at the [i]situation[/i] not her per se, though if she knew she was still emotionally wrapped up in someone else it would’ve been nice to know before today.[/quote]

OP, what's better or easier about calling it "anger" or "pissed off," if it's not really anger, but really "hurt and disappointed?" Why label it as something it is not?[/quote]

Growing up, and even now, sitting around with my friends and my dad we don’t sit there and say “well I’m disappointed I didn’t get the job”. Instead, we shrug and say “eh yea I’m kind of pissed I didn’t get the job”. Just doesn’t sound as weak I guess? Just conditioned that way I think. Most of the men I know, myself included obviously, have a limited vocabulary when it comes to labeling emotions. [/quote]

Your thread would have been more interesting if you had just been honest about wanting to discuss the ways men are socialized to express their emotions and how that impacts their relationships instead of creating a fake story about a cancelled date.[/quote]

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