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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Legit don’t understand women who are content to look dumpy. Even if your husband doesn’t care, isn’t the rest of your life more pleasant if other people generally find you attractive? And before any bitter frumps come accuse me of being a bimbo, I have a demanding and somewhat high-profile tech job. Which i would never show up to in sweatpants and a greasy ponytail. [/quote]

Actually, no, my quality of life is unrelated to how attractive people find me. Crazy, right? [/quote]

+1. I’ve never understood the obsession with caring about what others think of your appearance, be they friends, family, employers, employees, colleagues, or strangers. My happiness is intrinsic, and so far removed from following societal conventions. I’ve got enough self-pride and confidence to live my life how I want to live it, including how I choose to dress, opinion of others be damned. To each his/her own I suppose. I simply find it sad when reasons for doing one thing or another are driven by extrinsic factors that place value on one’s worth, rather than intrinsic desires. Find ya’ll worth internally people.[/quote]

This is so dumb. Wanting to look nice and presentable doesn't mean a person lacks self-worth. You probably don't know what it's like to be admired for your looks.[/quote]

You’re missing PP’s point (and being kinda rude while you’re at it). They didn’t say that looking nice means you don’t have self worth. Their comment was a reaction to the idea that life is better if people find you attractive. And the answer is no, and those who know this best are the ones who have periods where they get lots of attention for their looks and periods where they are basically ignored. I am one of those people and I’m my experience the quality of my life is correlated only with my internal feelings of self-worth. That’s it. My day to day life when I went around nine months pregnant in fugly maternity clothes with no makeup wasn’t better than when I was a size two dressed to perfection. You can and should have a great quality of life no matter what you look like. [/quote]

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