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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sorry but grow the f up. [/quote]
Got to be a man (or woman) who doesn't have the first clue as to what growing, and birthing a human can do to you mentally and physically  :roll: [/quote]

[b]I have a son and one on the way, and I really hope neither one marries such a harpy as this poster[/b] and many of the others that have suggested the OP has carte blanche after birth. [b][b]I had one of the most heinous and painful births imaginable with my son, [/b][u]so I understand childbirth and recovery very well.[/b] I could not walk right for two weeks. But I am also a believer on putting yourself in someone else's shoes, and if this is her in-laws first grandchild, and her husband sincerely wants his parents there, how can you not find a compromise? If you love your husband and his family, find a way to accommodate their feelings as well as your own.[/quote]

Yes of course PP. You had one of the worst most painful deliveries. And your sons are the best who deserve to marry perfect princesses who never bat an eyelash at their husband's demands.

You sound like a total psycho. Don't give OP anymore advice. You are a complete narcissist (me me me, my labor was the hardest) and you are raising your kids to be the same as you.[/quote]

This is the biggest problem with DCUM, our mean posters. Can't you express yourself without the insults? Was it really necessary to call her a psycho and narcissist?  OP is the one in the vulnerable position since she is the one who would have just given birth, needs to breastfeed, needs to deal with the difficulty of taking care of a newborn for the first time. This is NOT the time to be figuring out how she can compromise on herself. There will be plenty of times in her life when she and her hubby can compromise for one another but this is her time to surround herself with people who SHE feels will be beneficial to her.  Her in-laws can come a week after the birth. Sorry it's one of the privileges OP has in decision making because she is the bearer and deliverer of that child. [/quote]

If you read the quotes properly you would see that the part the PP responded to was not posted by the OP. This was written by a PP who apparently had the most difficult of labors and the most precious of sons who she says, she would never want to date a woman like the OP. It was insulting to the OP and insulting to the rest of the posters who have also been through difficult labors.[/quote]

Yes, I know PP was responding to someone other than the OP. So just because this PP said she had one of the most heinous and painful births why does that offend you so much that you had to lash out at her? I'm on OP's side and I don't agree with that PP's position either. But why flip out? She didn't say she had THE most difficult labors as you wrote. She said she had ONE  OF the most heinous and painful births. It's just an expression. It doesn't mean her birth was literally in the top 2% of all difficult births in the U.S. It means she endured a lot of difficulty during labor. And maybe she actually did. And where did she say her sons were "so precious"? Sounds like you just didn't like her opinion so now you're hitting below the belt. [/quote]

Thanks for defending me. I'm not sure why my having a different opinion makes me a psycho and a narcissist, or a crappy MIL in training as she called me earlier, but whatever. And it's truly rude invoke my kids--I never called my sons "precious," nor did I ever indicate I'd want them to ignore their future wives' wishes. Quite the contrary--I try very hard to involve my MIL--I'm certainly not perfect, but I definitely try. My point in mentioning how hard my labor was not to compare with anyone or congratulate myself, only to say, Hey, I know how shitty recovery from birth is, and I totally understand why the OP would want her mother there and no one else. I get it. I have lots of friends, so I know difficult labor does not make me special or unique. You're right poster--that kind of hysterical name calling is such a turn off here. I posted very early on to the OP, trying to offer constructive advice and a different perspective, which is what she asked for. I'm not sure why presenting a different opinion caused such an overreaction on that poster, but it did. I probably should not have characterized her as being like a "harpy," but this was not what she was reacting to. I always wonder about people who read so much into even the most straightforward responses and decide they know everything about someone.[/quote]

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