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If you think "she's allowed to have male friends, but not male friends that are attracted to her" is a reasonable rule or one that you have the right to enunciate or enforce for your "gregarious, fun, vibrant" girlfriend, you are an idiot.  Men will be attracted to her for the same reasons you are.  The question is whether you trust her, and despite her almost pathological honesty with you, it's clear you do not.[/quote]

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Actually there you have it wrong.  What I am trying to figure out is not whether this"rule" which isn't a rule is reasonable.

What I am trying to figure out is:

A.  Was the guy actually asking her out on a date or asking her to go talk as friends?  That is a big difference.  Bringing a friend was a smart move--agreed-but it also shows that she herself was concerned and knew on some level he wasn't really asking her to go talk about dating.

B.  Assuming this was a date, should I be concerned that she went out with a guy who she knew was asking her on a date?

C.  This isn't about controlling her behavior.  At the end of the day it is about what I want in a relationship.  Do I want to go out with a woman who I am in an exclusive relationship with, planning a future with, who goes on a sort-of-date with a guy who it seems she knows doesn't want to be friends but wants a lot more?

So for all your attacks on me, please answer this:  If you were in a committed, long-term relationship, would you be OK with your partner gong out with a woman/man, when your partner knows full well the woman/man doesn't want to be friends but wants a lot more?  SO much so that he/zhe had to take a host of steps to prevent the date from getting the wrong (actual) message of agreeing to go in the first place?

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