Reply to Noncustodial Parent Relocation

Forum Index » Parenting -- Special Concerns

Reply to "Noncustodial Parent Relocation - Who Handles Transport?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]
My DSC’s mother moved 35 miles away in the DMV (which is like an hour in more traffic) and then demanded full custody because it was logistically impossible to have DSC still in school near us/do 50/50 custody. Went to court and got it, as DSC articulated a preference for her house if they had to choose one house. The move was to be with a new DH (they are now separated). She asked for DH to do all the driving, but the judge made her do half.

Mothers don’t get called selfish for moving away if they take their kids with them.

Honestly, DH was devastated for about 2 years but it’s been almost 10 now and everyone has adjusted to the situation.

[b]Op, your kids will be fine with the move. They will grumble and complain, but it won’t change their life trajectory.[/b] And yes, the driving sucks, but you can turn it into something that ok/nice tradition with your kids if you have to.

And if the roads are not terrible, I don’t see why your 16yo can’t drive themselves soon - I grew up in Texas and regularly drive 30-60 miles per day to school/friends houses, etc. and a car payment is cheaper than paying for an attorney. [/quote]

You honestly think that not being able to play sports, be in the school drama productions, participate in marching band, or have a part time job in high school will not "change their life trajectory?"
Because if OP's kids have to go an hour away every other weekend and their dad is not willing to drive them back home for these activities, all those activities are off the table for them.  
No high school coach is going to put someone on the team who won't be able to make half the games.

Did YOU do anything in high school?   Play a sport?   Play in the orchestra?  Work at a local ice cream shop?
Or did you just go to school, and sit at home with your parents every single weekend for 4 years?   Because if you didn't just sit at home (and force your own kids to do so, if you have them) you have absolutely no room to talk.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics