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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would say 5 or 6. My 6 year old daughter has begun requesting privacy at home. She certainly does not want a boy from school seeing her naked.

If you have no other options, then you change at home. You don’t traumatize little girls because of your fear that something *might* happen.[/quote]

Is it inherently traumatic to see a little boy changing? I guess I'll tell the entire rest of the world that their daughters are traumatized. [/quote]

No, it’s not seeing a little boy changing, it’s having a boy their age see them changing when they’d prefer privacy. My girls started asking for privacy when they were 3. By 7 they definitely did not want to be changing their clothes in front of boys, especially boys on their class at school. It’s the girls locker room, so girls should have an expectation of privacy when they are in there, just as boys should have an expectation of privacy and therefore should use the male locker room. [/quote]

Okay, but OP wasn't mad that her own daughter was changing and boy walked in. She was mad that her daughter saw the boy.

I'm also pretty distressed that OP stared long enough to know whether a 7 year-old who had recently been swimming had a "turtleneck." Kids that age are not normally particularly....endowed....so OP had to look for a long time. That's the grossest part of this story. [/quote]

I only saw it for about a second but I could still tell. Even if they aren't "endowed" yet it's still very obvious. Also, my daughter actually asked me afterwards why it looked so different from her baby brother's.[/quote]

How old is your daughter? This is absolutely an age where it is past appropriate to talk about differences in bodies and cultures. I hope you explained circumcision vs intact. That there are certain cultural and religious reasons to circumcise. That being intact looks different but that the function is still the same. Just like some men have pink and some men have brown penises. Just like some women have pink nipples and others have brown. TALK to your children PLEASE. [/quote]

She's 7. I told her it wasn't appropriate to stare but I still explained the difference without getting too detailed.[/quote]

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