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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]That’s sad. In the second shift, there was an interview with a dad who saw corporal punishment as his role as a parent. Like that was the only thing. He was responsible for discipline. His wife didn’t leave them alone with him even to get her hair done. The interviews were from the late 80s and early 90s. I would argue men are doing better as parents, but again, it’s stalled.[/quote]

1980s was when the percentage of SAHMs was rapidly declining, but still generally considered the norm. I wouldn't be surprised if those dads interviewed were the breadwinner and their wives were SAHMs, and thus "discipline" was indeed the only thing he was expected to do as a parent.

I grew up in the 60s and 70s when corporal punishment was the norm. My parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and even schoolteachers routinely hit me. They only stopped when I got big enough that if they it me I laughed at them. If you'd asked me in the 1980s (when I did not yet have kids) I would have said "yes it's fine to hit kids if they misbehave". That was the environment I grew up in. When I eventually had my own kids, my attitude completely changed. I never hit them, and never felt I needed to. I regard corporal punishment as the product of weakness, failure, and laziness in the adult who hits the kid - if you hit your kids, you suck as a parent.[/quote]

I do t hot my kids either, but you realize that this is one more unrealistic expectation for parents and due to stalled revolution, moms. That’s why you see so many threads on here ripping each other apart over misbehavior. There’s a lot of advice about not hitting but a lot less about what to do when kids act up. [/quote]

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