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OP was complaining after one night. One night.

Look, my dad was in skilled nursing for the last year of his life, and he wore depends to bed. That was fine. But OP has zero tolerance for what her mother needs, and she needs to find someplace that will treat her with respect. That isn’t with OP.[/quote]

You didn’t care for your dad so what gives you the right to criticize someone in the trenches? Easy to heckle from the bleachers. [/quote]

I am not heckling from the bleachers. I am saying that I fully understand that long-term needs can mean delegating responsibilities outside the family. If OP decides she needs to do that, fine. But that is far different from deciding after one night of caretaking following an injury that these demands are unreasonable and OP is the only one who gets to offer a solution. Tell the doctor what's happening. See what options are out there. But don't announce that your mother's needs are nothing more than a "bad habit" to be addressed with gumption and a diaper. [/quote]

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