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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]But yes, I recognize that I was "played".[/quote]

If you were taking part in a secret affair, you were a player too.[/quote]

No, I was fooled and taken advantage of for some of the reasons astutely noted in a previous post comparing cheaters to conartists.  I forgive him just as I need to forgive myself for falling for it.  [/quote]

If you knew he was married you were not fooled.

If he presented himself as single and you had no reason to believe otherwise (no facts or knowledge), then you were fooled.

But nobody that knows a man is married is fooled into being the OW.  Get real.  I don't know how many lines married men have told me over my lifetime.  You wanted to believe a falsehood.[/quote]

And take no blame for doing it...just forgive herself and him :lol:  :lol:   JFC!  These people are unbelievable.[/quote]

Would you rather I forgive him, or out him to colleagues, friends and family?  I think forgiveness in my heart is the better course.[/quote]

You want to talk about being taken advantage of??? Imagine you are the wife of 20 years. Taking care of things even though you work too because his job has longer hours.  Going out of your way to pamper him.  Staying sexy and fun and not only bringing hone the bacon but also giving good head/sex a few times per week. Driving to all the kids’ sports practices after a long day of work because he doesn’t work from home like you so doesn’t have the luxury of working out in the middle of the work day like you.

Then imagine finding out 2 married whores had dating site account and met up to f@ck behind your back once or twice per month.

I chose to out HER (to her husband) and HIM (to his family).  No forgiveness from me.  I will think they are both trash indefinitely.[/quote]

I hear you, but is it really that hard to take care of everything and if it is, why aren’t you asking for help from him and why isn’t he helping?  I’m starting to wonder why we as women don’t speak up more about how hard it is to do it all to our significant others, rather than holding in the resentment and letting all of these things (especially sex) seem like chores.  I mean some times ok, but all the time? Why don’t we SAY this stuff to our DH and if he does nothing, doesn’t cut back at work, then why don’t we just HIRE someone to help us out.  I think we are just conditioned to accept and this leads to resentment, build up of anger etc.  At the very least, if he cheats, then we aren’t angry.  IDK just some thoughts. I think Gen X was brought up with do it all and we still haven’t figured out how to actually balance the home life load between the spouses in many areas.[/quote]

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