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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I got married at 24. Still happily married 16 years later.

At the time, I remember feeling like an adult. My H is 3.5 years older than me (we met when I was a freshman and he was a senior in college). By the time we married 5 years later, we both had masters degrees, I had a job offer, he had a good paying job, and he had 100k in savings to put down on our first house. This early start in real estate got us on a solid financial path as we climbed the property ladder in DC, so there is that side benefit.

However, it seems today that people mature much slower than they used to and most people are not ready to marry, buy a house, or have kids until at least their early thirties, if not later.[/quote]

I don’t think it has anything do with “ maturing slower”. Many people realize they would rather enjoy their twenties, focus on their career, or wait for the right one. There is nothing wrong with waiting until your thirties to get married, buy a house, or have kids. It has nothing to do with maturity. Some people want to explore their carefree and childfree twenties. [/quote]

How’d it take you eight pages to show up?

Is your marriage miserable?  I enjoyed my twenties while married and childfree.  Enjoyed my life with my kids when they arrived too. [/quote]
Yeah, I don't get that mindset either. I feel bad for people who think getting married means the end of having a life/"enjoying" yourself. It is also *gasp* quite possible to focus on your career while married. I know, I know! Crazy, right? And why can't finding the "right one" happen in one's 20s? PP seems to be operating under the bizarre assumption that everyone who gets married in their 20s rushes into it and becomes super boring and co dependent once they get married. Sounds like she views marriage in a negative light, which is sad.

I met my DH at 21 (junior year of college), got engaged at 25, married at 26. (Kids came along at 30 and 33). There were crazy nights out on the town. We went to parties. We did "carefree" things. We went to grad school. We both leaned in HEAVILY to our careers. We traveled extensively- sometimes just the two of us, sometimes together with other friends, and I took a few girls' trips. I guess I just don't understand what I'm supposed to have missed out on...? [/quote]

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