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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Aww, divorced mom who only sees her kids 50% of the time being sanctimonious about me taking PART of one day to myself is cute. I tuck my kids in about 360 days a year, and hug them when they wake. We’re great, thanks. [/quote] I'm a divorced mom but have primary custody, he's an every other weekend dad. We have been separated for three years now. Because he's an every other weekend dad he has the kids friday to monday, and though our divorce agreement allows me to spend mothers day with my kids, he is controlling and abusive and its harder to approach him about the logistics of how to pick up my kids and return them to him (we have contactless handoffs through school as I have had a restraining order against him), so I don't bother trying. My kids know that I've gone to the mat for them, that I support them emotionally, financially, physically. They have such limited time with their Dad that I feel childish insisting on taking time from him to anoint myself "MOTHER" on some contrived day. They know who i am and what I do every day. They love me and I love them, paying extra to jockey for a mediocre brunch spot doesn't prove a thing. So unlike previous divorced Mom, I have enjoyed my past two mothers days where I didn't have my kids by taking a spa weekend or a camping trip with a friend, and facetiming with my kids while my DH ran them to lacrosse games and other events. THis year they are with me and its the first one where I find myself very sad. My ex's job moved us far from family a year before he left, so I am sad that my entire family is getting together to celebrate together, and we are across the country. My kids are 11-14 so cant drive, and their father would NEVER help them get me a gift or a card, so they have complicated feelings about not having anything for me. That means that I plan my "special" thing, which then doesn't feel that special. I plan that "special" thing around the driving to three lacrosse games, which is challenging. At all of the games you see Dad's there doting on their wives, I am alone. I would much prefer to be safely in a spa, while the day went on. I find myself mired in sorrow and resentment (Dad is an addict with rage issues, hence the dissolution of marriage and his limited custody). All of that said, the fact that a mother could come on here on this weekend and basically slam a mom who may have had NO CHOICE in divorce for not being a "full time parent" or pointing out something she may rue with all of her being (I tuck my kids in each night) is pretty shameful. As you celebrate today, know you have a cold rotten heart. [/quote] NP here - stuff it. If the first divorced mom hadn't been so sanctimonious, she wouldn't have gotten this response. [/quote]
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