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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Because the Mom makes it so difficult on him and causes so much drama. She engages in parental alienation to turn the kid against him anyway and he’s just fighting a losing battle until he finally gives up. [/quote]

Yep.[/quote]

And none of this whining has anything to do with the child.

Because they are conflict avoidant and walking away is just easier. Easy button and done.[/quote]

I know in our situation, my husband took it to court many times.  There were zero consequences for Mom.  He'd fly out, go to court, get so see the kids for a few hours after court and that was it.  He got very specific court orders with shared cost for plane tickets.  She'd refuse to put the kids on the plane (older/not an age fly alone issue and she left them home alone all the time to fend for themselves) and when he flew out, she'd refuse to let them see him.  She'd refuse phone calls, emails and texting too telling the kids to ignore Dad.  After several years and a lot of money between all the flights (she'd cash out the flights even though he'd pay for them), a lot win court fees, hotel costs, he just couldn't keep up with the expenses and gave up when they were older teens.

There are consequences for not paying child support but there are no consequences, except for a rare judge for visitation/contact refusal.

Given how the kids all have relationship issues and two/three refuse to get married/have kids its pretty sad the number she did on them.  Not including the AP/boyfriend's kids who suffered as she would allow them in her home after child welfare removed them due to abuse and the AP/boyfriend refused to pay child support so they lived in poverty.  Their mom and my husband were friendly and I talked to her when she'd call and sometimes sent her clothing and other stuff for the kids as she was really struggling.[/quote]

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