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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op absolutely is missing something. There is no reason dh should be so exhausted he can’t provide childcare and needs grandparent help. In my household one of us has been out of work this whole pandemic. Guess what he has been doing??? Childcare!!! We have never had any need for a sitter or grandparents or whatever. Sounds like OP and her husband need to figure out how to live life as adults. [/quote]

OP here. It's easy to write anonymous snarky posts, but if you're really in the same situation, how about some constructive advice?

My husband is actively job searching, which is taking upwards of 20 hours per week. Between searching for jobs, writing cover letters, reaching out to people to network, working with recruiters, interviews and prep for interviews, pro bono projects to develop skills and make contacts, it really is like a job. So it's not like he's just sitting on his ass. To get concrete, here's how our day looks:

Morning: he is on kid duty, I work frenetically to get a full day's work into 4-5 hours. 
Afternoon: I am on kid duty, he does his job search stuff and catches up on groceries, bills, house repairs, mail, all that "adulting" fun. He makes dinner while I watch kids. 
Evening: we eat dinner together, then bedtime routine. After kids in bed, we finish the work we didn't get done in the morning. We pass out from exhaustion and then get up and do it all over again.

Are there other families with young kids and similar workloads and no childcare? I'm sure. I know some of them. They are always tired and their romantic lives are nonexistent. I'm not really interested in living like that. I like having romantic evenings, spending time with my husband and having regular sex. I like going on vacation just the two of us every year. If you are satisfied being with your kids 24/7, all power to you, but there are plenty of families that do use sitters and grandparents to get much-needed time away from kids. [/quote]

Wow.  You are either a troll or raised with immense privilege.  What you are describing is normal and yes, many -- most -- other parents do it every day.  You're "really not interested in living like that?"  LOL!

You don't stop working for pay and start a business that you *hope* will support you in a year (but not until) with a spouse who isn't working.  If you don't want to deal with your own kids full-time and yes, be exhausted (welcome to adulthood, again), then you need to stop playing house and one or both of you get a PAYING FULL-TIME JOB.  Then you can afford the "breaks" you so desperately have convinced yourself you need.  [/quote]

+1.  OP sounds very spoiled.  Taking care of children is for the common people, not OP.[/quote]

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