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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Can't help but feel some of these stories are exaggerated. I know large families where there was lots of love and small ones where there was abuse and neglect. This isn't about small/large families. The stories here are about bad parenting. [/quote]

I think though, that parents with lots of kids are pulled in more directions and have the option of having older siblings help, whereas parents of 2-3 young kids don't have this option which can be a good thing when siblings aren't mature enough. My grandparents were dealing with problem teens while they were still having babies in the house and everyone was negatively affected. They weren't bad parents, but there is only so much time and energy. [b]And it was sad that my grandma had grandkids the same age as her kids - definitely makes that relationship less special. [/b]I was much closer to my maternal grandmother who had raised all her kids by the time she started having grandkids. [/quote]

I agree.

While "accidents" do happen, I think it makes for some weird dynamics.[/quote]

No different from the dynamics today where some parents (who are 40+ when they give birth) might not even live to see their grandkids or only do so for a short length of time. (This is barring illnesses, etc that can claim a parent at any age). [/quote]

uh
not really

If I were a breeder who married in my 20s, I just might mirror the lifestyle of the Duggar mom - competing with my DIL as we go through our pregnancies together.

As a 40-something with two small children, while I may not live long to see my own grandchildren, I sure as hell can't compete with my son's future wife.

apples and oranges

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Why do you think having kids is a competition? That's odd. [/quote]

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