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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Can't help but feel some of these stories are exaggerated. I know large families where there was lots of love and small ones where there was abuse and neglect. This isn't about small/large families. The stories here are about bad parenting. [/quote]

I think though, that parents with lots of kids are pulled in more directions and have the option of having older siblings help, whereas parents of 2-3 young kids don't have this option which can be a good thing when siblings aren't mature enough. My grandparents were dealing with problem teens while they were still having babies in the house and everyone was negatively affected. They weren't bad parents, but there is only so much time and energy. And it was sad that my grandma had grandkids the same age as her kids - definitely makes that relationship less special. I was much closer to my maternal grandmother who had raised all her kids by the time she started having grandkids. [/quote]

I don't know if this is necessarily true. I've seen a new wave of Moms who are second time around'ers. They have older children (10+) and then for whatever reason, new marriage or just want a baby in the house, they have a child later in life. So, the dynamics can still be the same. A small family doesn't have to mean that the children are close in age. [/quote]

Then they probably have more time for each child individually. Also sounds like these kids are planned, at least the later ones, which is different from the "God's will" mentality being discussed where no bc is used.[/quote]

Hmmm; the argument on this thread seems to be that with large families, the older ones end up caring for their younger siblings. When it's pointed out that this can happen in small families too, the response is that the parents "probably" have more time for each child individually. Why can't this also apply to larger families?

I have 4 children and didn't use the [b]"God's will mentality". Haven't heard anyone else say that on this thread either.[/b] [/quote]

Did you read the entire tread? OP is the one pushing that we all be "open to children" which is the same as the "god's will mentality"[/quote]

Sorry, but it is not the same at all. You're reaching and trying to make a connection that simply doesn't exist. [/quote]

So what does being "open to children" mean to you?[/quote]

Not doing anything to prevent getting pregnant (ex: not using protection). I know some people like that and they aren't religious zealots and/or don't subscribe to the "god's will mentality". [/quote]

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