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[quote=Anonymous]I totally understand why you're upset. But I think you need to deal with your emotions privately, and follow your son's lead to him and resist the urge to give advice or nudge him in any direction at all. I don't think the answer is to be optimistic and point out the positives. He's unexcited and (presumably) disappointed. I think you just validate, validate, validate. "I know this wasn't the school you wanted, that must be hard." Even some commiseration might be in order. "I thought you'd have more options too" might be really validating for him. There's no need to put on a happy face if that's not the emotional place he's in, either. And follow his lead. If he starts saying "well, at least the school has X" you say "yeah, that's a good point! That'll be nice." If he says "I just wish I had an option with a more fun student body (or whatever)" you say, "yeah, that is disappointing." [/quote]
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