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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Did you tell your MIL about the surprise party? Maybe she isn’t thrilled two strangers are going to be staying at the house? Maybe she doesn’t want a party to happen at the house and prefers only family use the house.[/quote]

This was my gut response actually— being willing to have an adult child and his family use the beach house for a week every summer isn’t the same as the beach house hosting a sweet sixteen...[/quote]

I posted about MIL not wanting party. Our family has a beach house and that is a ground rule . You can’t block out time so you can then host other people at the house. Family members have priority. And this is especially the case this year due to Covid. A tag along friend is different than inviting multiple friends.[/quote]

But again, then MIL just needs to own her (or her/nephew's shared) boundaries and say we are not allowing non-family and give a clear no. Not a wishy-washy, it's not my fault but I can't bother the poor nephew response.[/quote]

It would be NICE and preferable if MIL did that, but MIL does not "need" to do anything to please or satisfy anyone other than herself. I, too, prefer direct communication; but I'm only in control of the way I communicate. If I "need" a direct answer and don't get one for planning purposes, I get out my calendar and my credit card and I book something that suits my needs and preferences. [/quote]

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