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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Am deciding whether to stay at home for 1-3 years with my baby as my maternity leave comes to a close. On one hand, I’ve read that the most brain development happens from age 1-3 and I love the idea of being able to interact with the baby as much as possible during this period as he learns so much. I can’t imagine anyone being as invested in his development as me. On the other hand, baby’s needs seem so simple during this period and likely could be easily outsourced to a well qualified nanny. Is there really any benefit to the baby if a mom stays at home during the early years? Not looking to debate what is best for mom re savings, career etc., just what is best for baby. [/quote]

If parent is stable, competent and loving, you absolutely be your baby’s primary caregiver. Only one in a thousand nanny *might* give you all of that. The first three years are the foundational years of life. Why not give your own child the best possible start in life?[/quote]

Might give all of what?

Caring for a baby is easy and almost anyone can do it.  There’s very little difference in a mom holding a baby all day and a nanny doing so.  It’s all hormones and emotions that are making you think that YOU doing instead of a nanny it makes a difference.  Write down a list of what a mom does every day and then next to each item identify why it’s better for the mom to do each item.  You’ll have a hard time with this exercise because it truly doesn’t matter who holds the baby.  You also don’t want to admit you gave up your career and independence to do something that doesn’t really matter.  If it mattered , then men would stay home to do it and they’d be paid to do so.

If you stay home, do it because YOU want to stay home.  Not for the benefit of the baby, because unless you have a bad childcare provider, it doesn’t really matter.  
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