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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP what is the point of this thread?  If you hear that it's a normal amount, are you going to stop feeling like that money should be available for you (and your future kids)?  If you hear that it sounds high, are you going to demand he stop paying it or seek a modification?

This is just really, truly none of your business.  You are a girlfriend and this is between co-parents, and very likely the state.  If it bothers you, find someone else to date, but you should not presume to have or to voice an opinion on something so far outside of your sphere of influence.[/quote]

^^this. When I was in my late 20s I dated a man who was separated with a young child (4 years old). I vividly remember being stressed by the fact that he and his ex chose an expensive private daycare even though the child had gotten a spot in a highly sought after public school. This was NYC so the expense of tuition and maintaining two apartments was considerable. his ex wasn’t working because she was finishing grad school and had taken time off to care for their child; meanwhile, he got tenure. so he must have been paying a HUGE chunk of his income to support them. I was upset about it and worried about how we could ever move forward as a couple when he had this responsibility and was making choices that seemed to come from guilt instead of prudent budgeting. Now that I have my own child and am facing divorce I look back and cringe (and am thankful I never brought it up with him.) Ultimately we broke up because our stages in life were too different. His financial responsibilities were one way that we were just too different. At the time I remember being confused and frustrated about why we couldn’t move forward to a “blended family” but now I know exactly what he was doing and I admire him for it. I suppose he wasn’t completely honest with me about our future but neither of us were really thinking it through. We fell in love but it wasn’t possible for the long term - it happens. [/quote]

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