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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote] I think this is fairly common these days. Marriage is difficult over the long haul. Some say a marriage license is like a drivers license and should be renewed every 10 years. People fall out of love and would be happier with someone else. Life isn’t a dress rehearsal, and staying married to someone you don’t love seems stupid to me.

The new woman is the force to end a marriage that is already dying. For men in bad marriages, the new younger woman is the motivation to finally end a relationship they don’t really want to be in anymore.

I am the younger OW. My DH left his exW for me. As he explained it to me when we met, their marriage was terrible, had been bad for years, and he couldn’t ignore that anymore after developing feelings for me. DH didn’t have kids, so the divorce was fairly easy. It was emotionally difficult for his exW. She went to therapy and he was very fair and generous in their divorce. DH felt guilty for hurting her and would likely still help her out as a friend today. He didn’t love her and hadn’t loved her for many years. DH knew he didn’t want to spend the rest of his life with her.

We don’t care if people know how we met. DH tells people openly. I know a little about his exW, but haven’t stalked her. I don’t know her, and the only feelings I have toward her are some guilt for my part in her pain. ExW couldn’t really do anything to mess up our lives, as we have nothing to hide. I believe she’s moved on with her life and doesn’t care about how we are living.[/quote]

Even before you admitted you were the OW it was clear from your first paragraph.  This post is one long rationalization.  Your DH rewrote history (he had been unhappy for years, he did not love her) to justify his affair with you and you bought it.  If that was true, why didn’t he talk to his first wife about it or leave before beginning to date?  I guarantee things in his first marriage did not play out as he described.  You knowingly participated in blowing up someone else’s life and should feel terrible about it.  The fact that you both brag about actually starting as an affair shows how morally bankrupt you are.  And the prize yiu won is a cheating liar - not much to brag about there.

FYI - I’m married and have never had to deal with an OW, and come from an intact family.  My disgust is because you and your cheating DH violated all standards of human decency.[/quote]

She is very proud of herself but that always stems from deep insecurity.  Women that sleep with married have at least this in common, they are all incredibly lacking in self esteem.[/quote]

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