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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ok, problem solving time here...

OP, why don't you consider an in-house counsel job?  Surely the hours would be the same as Fed, pay much better and the opportunity to catch equity windfalls are there if you land in a nice/small publicly traded company.  It's how we got out of school debt, tbh.  [/quote]

OP has already said he imagines he'll go to a fin reg agency, which is the same salary his wife currently makes but with better hours, benefits, and stability than in house.  But he's not going to actually apply for any fin reg jobs, even though there's currently a glut of openings at the moment, because that would mean she won, or something?

He doesn't want to problem solve.  He wants to trash his wife on a message board.[/quote]

OP has said multiple times that he intends to apply in a couple years, but he is currently not qualified to get one of those jobs so there is no sense in applying.

The hate for OP on this thread is ridiculous.  He has a good job with excellent (economic and non-economic) benefits above and beyond his salary. He expects moderate salary growth in the future.  He and his wife have paid off a $240k of student loans in a relatively short amount of time.

The fight he and his wife are having over income (whether he should make a little more or whether she should make a little less) is irrational-- because that extra amount he makes or little bit she loses  is not the difference between the lifestyle they have vs the lifestyle his wife wants. Him making $50k more is not going to let his wife stay home or give them a 1%er lifestyle. Her  making a little less in government will still afford them a sold UMC lifestyle.

In other words, his wife is just unhappy about working alot and the choices she's made, and she's looking to pin it on something or someone else.  Sucks for OP that he has to bear the brunt of it.  [/quote]

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